French Pronominal Verbs (Les Verbes Pronominaux)

Pronominal verbs are conjugated with a reflexive pronoun (me, te, se, nous, vous, se) that refers back to the subject. In the infinitive they are listed as se + verb: se lever, s’appeler, se souvenir. They are extremely common in French and cannot be avoided.


1. The Three Types

A. Reflexive (Réfléchis) — Subject Acts on Itself

The action reflects back onto the subject:

Je me lave. — I wash myself. Elle se regarde dans le miroir. — She looks at herself in the mirror. Nous nous levons à sept heures. — We get up at seven o’clock. Tu te couches tôt. — You go to bed early.

Common reflexive verbs:

VerbMeaning
se leverto get up
se coucherto go to bed
se réveillerto wake up
se laverto wash (oneself)
se brosser les dentsto brush one’s teeth
s’habillerto get dressed
se déshabillerto get undressed
se peigner / se coifferto comb/do one’s hair
se raserto shave
se maquillerto put on makeup
se regarderto look at oneself
se promenerto take a walk
s’asseoirto sit down
se reposerto rest
s’endormirto fall asleep
se dépêcherto hurry

B. Reciprocal (Réciproques) — Subjects Act on Each Other

Used only with plural subjects; the action is mutual:

Nous nous téléphonons tous les jours. — We call each other every day. Ils se parlent souvent. — They talk to each other often. Elles se connaissent depuis longtemps. — They have known each other for a long time. Vous vous êtes rencontrés où? — Where did you (all) meet?

Common reciprocal pronominal verbs: se voir, se parler, se téléphoner, se connaître, se retrouver, s’aimer, se quitter, s’écrire, se disputer, s’entendre (to get along)

C. Inherently Pronominal (Essentiellement Pronominaux)

These verbs only exist in pronominal form — the pronoun has no reflexive or reciprocal meaning; it is simply part of the verb:

VerbMeaning
se souvenir deto remember
se rendre compte deto realise
se méfier deto distrust, beware of
se fier àto trust
se tromperto be mistaken
se passerto happen
se plaindreto complain
s’en allerto go away, leave
se lever— (also purely reflexive)
s’évanouirto faint
se moquer deto make fun of
se servir deto use, make use of
s’en vouloirto be angry with oneself

Je me souviens de lui. — I remember him. (pronoun not truly reflexive) Ça se passe bien. — It’s going well. *Il **s’*est trompé. — He made a mistake.


2. Conjugation in the Present Tense

The reflexive pronoun matches the subject:

SubjectPronounse lever
jeme / m’je me lève
tute / t’tu te lèves
il/elle/onse / s’il se lève
nousnousnous nous levons
vousvousvous vous levez
ils/ellesse / s’ils se lèvent

me, te, se become m’, t’, s’ before a vowel or mute h:

*Je **m’**habille. Tu **t’**endors. Elle **s’*appelle.


3. Compound Tenses: Always with Être

All pronominal verbs form compound tenses (passé composé, plus-que-parfait, etc.) with être as the auxiliary — never avoir.

Je me suis levé(e) à huit heures. — I got up at eight. Ils se sont rencontrés en 2020. — They met in 2020. Elle s’était déjà endormie quand il est arrivé. — She had already fallen asleep when he arrived.

Past Participle Agreement

The past participle agrees in gender and number with the reflexive pronoun when it is the direct object (which is the case for most pronominal verbs):

SubjectPast participle
il s’est levémasculine singular (levé)
elle s’est levéefeminine singular (levée)
ils se sont levésmasculine plural (levés)
elles se sont levéesfeminine plural (levées)

Exception — No agreement when there is a separate direct object after the verb (the reflexive pronoun becomes an indirect object):

Elle s’est lavé les mains. — She washed her hands. (no agreement: mains is the direct object; se = indirect) Ils se sont parlé. — They spoke to each other. (no agreement: se = indirect object of parler à)

This is one of the most commonly confused agreement rules in French.


4. Negation

ne precedes the reflexive pronoun; pas follows the conjugated verb:

Je ne me lève pas tôt. — I don’t get up early. Il ne se souvient pas de toi. — He doesn’t remember you. *Elle **ne s’*est pas levée. — She didn’t get up. (compound tense)


5. Imperative of Pronominal Verbs

Affirmative Imperative

Pronoun follows the verb with a hyphen; metoi, tetoi:

Lève-toi! — Get up! Dépêche-toi! — Hurry up! Levons-nous! — Let’s get up! Couchez-vous! — Go to bed!

Negative Imperative

Pronoun returns to pre-verb position:

Ne te lève pas! — Don’t get up! Ne vous couchez pas encore. — Don’t go to bed yet. Ne nous dépêchons pas. — Let’s not hurry.


6. Infinitive of Pronominal Verbs

The reflexive pronoun changes to match the subject of the main clause:

Je vais me lever tôt. — I’m going to get up early. Tu dois te dépêcher. — You must hurry. Ils veulent se marier. — They want to get married. Elle a décidé de se reposer. — She decided to rest.


7. Pronominal Verbs with Changed Meaning

Some verbs exist in both a regular and a pronominal form, with different meanings:

RegularPronominal
appeler — to calls’appeler — to be called/named
aller — to gos’en aller — to go away/leave
demander — to askse demander — to wonder
douter — to doubtse douter de — to suspect
entendre — to hears’entendre — to get along
mettre — to putse mettre à — to begin to
passer — to passse passer — to happen
rendre — to give backse rendre à — to go to; se rendre compte — to realise
servir — to servese servir de — to use
trouver — to findse trouver — to be located
voir — to seese voir — to see each other; to be obvious

Il doute de son succès. — He doubts his success. Je me doutais qu’il viendrait. — I suspected he would come.


8. Common Mistakes

ErrorCorrect
J’ai levé (forgetting pronominal form)Je me suis levé(e)
Elle s’est levée les mains (wrong agreement)Elle s’est lavé les mains
Lève-te!Lève-toi!
Je souviens de lui (dropping pronoun)Je me souviens de lui

Source: heminway-2018-complete-french-all-in-one